The Burnout Cure

the burnout cure

It is Mother’s May, and so we are talking about all things mom.  And what says “mom” more than burnout. Too cynical? You can read about how to overcome mommy burnout here, but  if you are already feeling really burnt out, just keep reading…

 

The fact is many moms, especially moms of little children, feel overwhelmed a lot of the time. It is easy to get overwhelmed when the laundry starts to pile up, the dishes aren’t done, and your kids need YOU, again, for the billionth time.

 

I had a moment recently where all I wanted to do was run away. You know, those stand by the window and watch for the hubby to get home so you can turn the care of the monsters…ahem…kids over to him, and run away, at least for an hour or two. When this happens I usually find myself sitting in a Starbucks with a venti caramel apple cider and a decent book(aka smutty romance novel).

 

Sometimes you can’t run away, so here are a few of my best suggestions for when you need a little emotional support and help to stop the burnout.

 

Stop the “I’ll be happy when’s…”

It is easy to get in the mindset of “I will be happy when (my kids clean up their own messes, I don’t have to change diapers any more, I can go pee without someone knocking) You fill in the blank. But the truth is, every season of life has different challenges and rewards. When the dirty diapers are gone, other challenges will be there. So instead of waiting to be happy, find a way to focus on the rewards of this season rather than looking to the rewards of the next.  For me it is journaling about the good things so when the bad times hit I have something to look back on. This can be cute things the kids say or do, or just feelings of happiness and contentedness.

 

Change things up

One of the causes of burnout is monotony: the monotony of schedules and the care of little ones day-after-day. The fact is, it can be boring and feels like it will never be finished. So make a change to break the monotony. Try something new, with or without kids. This can be a new recipe, new game, new activity. It doesn’t matter, sit on the floor for dinner, or break the routine for a few hours. It really helps.

 

Find someone to turn to

Love my husband more than words, but the fact is he does not understand what it feels like to constantly be wiping noses, begging kids to clean up after themselves, and having kids hang all over every part of the human body. So, it is really nice to have friends who do understand. Friends I can call and complain to. And they understand. They can make me laugh. They can give me perspective. They can help me remember I am not the only one knee deep in life with kids. Share, laugh, cry, and pray with and for each other. It helps.

 

Try to progress

Mentally, spiritually, physically… You decide. Moms with young kids often find themselves only doing things merely for maintenance. Then a whole week goes by and you don’t feel like you have accomplished much. The rooms you cleaned are probably messy again. Those bellies you filled are probably hungry again. It really helps to do something, even one thing, that leaves you feeling like you accomplished something. Read an inspiring book, cook dinner for a friend, go to the gym, write a thank you note to someone.

 

Take care of you

I can’t stress this enough. Eat breakfast. Go to the gym. Drink enough water. Take a nap if you need it. The best way to avoid mommy burn out is to do whatever you can to not let your mind, body, and spirit get overloaded. You will feel far more overwhelmed if your energy levels are low. The messes, the whines, the endless to-do list will feel far more daunting if you eat junk food, stay up too late, and feel sluggish. Get healthy, get happy, and it won’t feel as overwhelming.

Signature-Rachael

Let’s get to the Mother’s May Highlight. Today we are featuring: Sara Hicks

Picture 20She was nominated by her daughter Kelli. Here is what Kelli had to say:

“My mom is an amazing woman!

She’s gone through so many trials and always comes back stronger!

She is kind, patient, loving and has an awesome sense of humor!!

She always has a smile on her face and is making others around her feel good about themselves!

Whenever people find out she’s my mom they always tell me how much they love her and how she has helped them in some way.

My mom is the best example, teacher, and friend I could ask for!”

 

I couldn’t agree more. Sara is a fun loving and wonderful person who is quick to laugh, and always has something nice to say. Leave her some comment love, because she deserves it.

About Rachael

I am Rachael, I have a passion for all things travel. I have an incurable wanderlust, and a need to see and do. I have four littles that call me "mom" and I am currently wading through the ever changing tides of parenting. I am figuring out what works, and what doesn't. And, I have a passion for food. In fact, I have an entire website dedicated to food www.eazypeazymealz.com. I love to eat, cook, and try new things.

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17 Responses to The Burnout Cure

  1. Sarah May 12, 2014 at 9:20 pm #

    Love this post, and I think you have some really heartfelt, accurate thoughts. Being a mama is a tough gig. Yes, it is amazing and beautiful, but it is tough. I appreciate all of these tips and reminders!

    • Rachael May 13, 2014 at 6:17 pm #

      Thank you for your kind comment. It is nice to know someone is reading and relating when I write from the heart.

  2. mindiehilton May 16, 2014 at 8:12 am #

    I admit I am feeling a little burned out. I have had a lot going on in my life now. I think I will take your advice. I do already eat right and workout. Please come share at the Anything Goes linky, if you have not already.

    • Anne Banks May 17, 2014 at 1:30 pm #

      Mindie, we will definitely be linking with you. Thanks for visiting. Don’t we all get a little burned out, especially at the end of the school year?

  3. Madaline May 19, 2014 at 5:42 am #

    This is so true. I’ll try to be super mom for weeks and then burn out and barely be able to move for days… I def need to take time for me… other then sneaking in the kitchen for cookies! Found you via Weekday Mixer….

    • Anne Banks May 19, 2014 at 11:25 am #

      Madaline, thanks for visiting. We can all be supermom, but part of being supermom is taking time on a regular basis to avoid burnout.

  4. Suzanne Lucas May 19, 2014 at 6:24 am #

    Being a mom is a tough job, and sometimes there just aren’t enough hours in a day. Well, actually, it’s more like most of the time. When your kids are small, it’s like each day is a whirlwind of activity and demands that never end. And then all of a sudden, your kids are grown up and you’re left wondering what to do with your life. Time goes by too fast, methinks.
    Thanks for sharing those tips. Wish I could have seen them a few years ago. :)
    Suzanne, stopping by from the Weekday Mixer…

    • Anne Banks May 19, 2014 at 11:24 am #

      Suzanne, thanks for visiting. Life does go by quickly, and trying to remember that amidst the chaos of small children is the key.

  5. Elizabeth May 19, 2014 at 4:01 pm #

    Mommy burnout is a real thing. We forget how much like “Groundhog’s Day” motherhood can be. Plus, it is 24 hours, 7 days a week. Taking care of ourselves, having someone to turn to, and just savoring the small moments are so important. Thank you!!

    • Rachael May 19, 2014 at 9:19 pm #

      Groundhog’s Day is a great description! Thanks for stopping by.

  6. robin lorraine williamson May 20, 2014 at 8:07 am #

    thank you for the tips I’m a single parent of teenagers who can still overwhelm me at times so I take advantage of church programs and youth groups to where they get out for awhile and I get mommy alone time thanks for sharing visiting from tips and tricks have a great day

    • Anne Banks May 20, 2014 at 8:35 pm #

      Robin, church programs and youth groups are a great way to get your kids involved, get some alone time, and still feel like a winner, because everyone is winning! Thanks for visiting.

  7. shanalou18 May 24, 2014 at 4:17 pm #

    What a great post! It’s so true—you have to remember to look at the positive things every day and celebrate them. Life goes by way to fast. I get so annoyed with moms that constantly complain. Yes, we’re all tired and exhausted but we have family and we need to remember to appreciate the little things. I try to do this on my Toasting Tuesday feature–encourage everyone to celebrate the everyday Wins. Stop by sometime. I’d love to hear your toasts. :-)
    Stopping by from the Weekday Mixer Social Media linkup. Nice to meet you!
    Cheers!
    Shana from Technotini.com

    • Rachael May 26, 2014 at 11:09 am #

      Thank you, and thanks for stopping by. Hopefully we can all be better mommas. huh?

  8. Heather Smith {Woods of Bell Trees} May 24, 2014 at 7:25 pm #

    I love this so much! I always need a reminder that one: I’m not alone and two, CHANGE things up! Thank you for the perspective!

    • Rachael May 26, 2014 at 11:09 am #

      I definitely wrote this for myself. Now to always remember to use it.

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