It is Mother’s May, and so we are talking about all things mom. And what says “mom” more than burnout. Too cynical? You can read about how to overcome mommy burnout here, but if you are already feeling really burnt out, just keep reading…
The fact is many moms, especially moms of little children, feel overwhelmed a lot of the time. It is easy to get overwhelmed when the laundry starts to pile up, the dishes aren’t done, and your kids need YOU, again, for the billionth time.
I had a moment recently where all I wanted to do was run away. You know, those stand by the window and watch for the hubby to get home so you can turn the care of the monsters…ahem…kids over to him, and run away, at least for an hour or two. When this happens I usually find myself sitting in a Starbucks with a venti caramel apple cider and a decent book(aka smutty romance novel).
Sometimes you can’t run away, so here are a few of my best suggestions for when you need a little emotional support and help to stop the burnout.
Stop the “I’ll be happy when’s…”
It is easy to get in the mindset of “I will be happy when (my kids clean up their own messes, I don’t have to change diapers any more, I can go pee without someone knocking) You fill in the blank. But the truth is, every season of life has different challenges and rewards. When the dirty diapers are gone, other challenges will be there. So instead of waiting to be happy, find a way to focus on the rewards of this season rather than looking to the rewards of the next. For me it is journaling about the good things so when the bad times hit I have something to look back on. This can be cute things the kids say or do, or just feelings of happiness and contentedness.
Change things up
One of the causes of burnout is monotony: the monotony of schedules and the care of little ones day-after-day. The fact is, it can be boring and feels like it will never be finished. So make a change to break the monotony. Try something new, with or without kids. This can be a new recipe, new game, new activity. It doesn’t matter, sit on the floor for dinner, or break the routine for a few hours. It really helps.
Find someone to turn to
Love my husband more than words, but the fact is he does not understand what it feels like to constantly be wiping noses, begging kids to clean up after themselves, and having kids hang all over every part of the human body. So, it is really nice to have friends who do understand. Friends I can call and complain to. And they understand. They can make me laugh. They can give me perspective. They can help me remember I am not the only one knee deep in life with kids. Share, laugh, cry, and pray with and for each other. It helps.
Try to progress
Mentally, spiritually, physically… You decide. Moms with young kids often find themselves only doing things merely for maintenance. Then a whole week goes by and you don’t feel like you have accomplished much. The rooms you cleaned are probably messy again. Those bellies you filled are probably hungry again. It really helps to do something, even one thing, that leaves you feeling like you accomplished something. Read an inspiring book, cook dinner for a friend, go to the gym, write a thank you note to someone.
Take care of you
I can’t stress this enough. Eat breakfast. Go to the gym. Drink enough water. Take a nap if you need it. The best way to avoid mommy burn out is to do whatever you can to not let your mind, body, and spirit get overloaded. You will feel far more overwhelmed if your energy levels are low. The messes, the whines, the endless to-do list will feel far more daunting if you eat junk food, stay up too late, and feel sluggish. Get healthy, get happy, and it won’t feel as overwhelming.
Let’s get to the Mother’s May Highlight. Today we are featuring: Sara Hicks
“My mom is an amazing woman!
She’s gone through so many trials and always comes back stronger!
She is kind, patient, loving and has an awesome sense of humor!!
She always has a smile on her face and is making others around her feel good about themselves!
Whenever people find out she’s my mom they always tell me how much they love her and how she has helped them in some way.
My mom is the best example, teacher, and friend I could ask for!”
I couldn’t agree more. Sara is a fun loving and wonderful person who is quick to laugh, and always has something nice to say. Leave her some comment love, because she deserves it.