One thing no one ever told me about motherhood was how much work it is.
I mean, I knew that moms wear lots of hats, like chef, hairstylist, chauffeur, maid, gardener, nurse, accountant, referee, and more.
But I did not realize there would be so many late nights, so many heartbreaks (mine and my children), so many moments of frustration. Being a mom is hard work.
Then you throw on the guilt. The mommy-guilt from all the people telling you to “stop and enjoy it” or “it goes so fast”. Let me tell you, I will never enjoy a poopy diaper or washing sheets that have been peed for the fifth time in a week by a child too old for pull ups, but who still has trouble making it through the night dry. I will never enjoy the whines of boredom, the bickering of siblings, or the messes. Oh the messes. Do not get me started.
Sure, I will miss the sweet sleeping babies, the messy face kisses, and those blissful moments of childhood joy. I am sure there are many things I will miss. And I am sure parts of childhood, like the innocence, goes too fast. But right now, in the thick of things, those good moments sometimes feel too few and far between, and motherhood is hard work.
Quit feeling bad about wishing you could pee without someone walking in on you, or read a book and actually finish it, or even make it through breakfast and a shower before someone else needs you. Quit feeling guilty for wishing you could pawn your kids off on a sitter and head to the spa. And don’t worry about the time you slipped up and screamed at your kids. Guess what? We all do it! Probably more than we like to let on.
The truth is, being a mom is hard work. It is rewarding work. It is important work. But that doesn’t change the fact that it is hard.
Here are 5 things you can do to lighten the load:
1. Hug and kiss them lots. It sounds crazy, but there are days where I kind of hate my kids, and giving them lots of hugs and kisses always helps.
2. Remember to avoid mommy burn out. Don’t know how, you can read an awesome article from Vanessa here.
3. Remember you are mom, but you are also you. Make it a priority to develop your own talents and pursue your own interests.
4. Get some sleep and eat right. Would you go do a bunch of manual labor, run a marathon, or something else like that without eating right, resting, etc.? Don’t approach the hard work of motherhood without taking care of your body. Otherwise you will wear down fast.
5. Find your mommy-hacks. A mommy- hack is your way of doing it all without doing it all. This can be freezer meals, which is what I use to make life easier. It can be carpools to get kids to more activities with less driving personally. It can be hiring someone else to clean your house so you don’t have to worry about toilets and tub scrubbing. Whatever it takes to make it through the day right?
We know being a mom is hard work, so good job! You are amazing! No one could raise YOUR kids better than YOU! We love you.
Now that we have that out of the way, let’s look at one awesome Mom–MINE! She was nominated by myself and several of my sisters. Here is what I wanted to share about her:
A little about: Colleen Simmons
Colleen has 10 kids. Yep–10! 6 girls, 4 boys. And guess what? Even though 5 are married, 5 still live at home. The youngest is only 8! She also has 11 grandkids! She is super mom, super grandma, and one of the most loving and selfless individuals out there.
Colleen grew up loving gymnastics, dance, and cheerleading. She cheered in college, and opened her own gymnastics studio with her husband. Then the real work began, as she had many children. She is a stay-at-home, work from dawn til dusk mom. I could go on all day, but I will let the nomination say it.
What her nomination from Christa read:
My mom is the queen of all moms! For starters she has ten children. Even with ten kids she still always found a way, and still finds a way, to make time for all of us. Now you can add five brother-in-laws and eleven grandkids to the mix but that doesn’t stop her. She makes every member of our family feel loved and important.
When I was growing up I always thought I really did have the most amazing mom in the world. I don’t know how she juggled it all. Between the cooking, cleaning, and getting everyone where they needed to go…I think she is a super human.
Now that I am married and have two children of my own I realize even more the sacrifices she made to bring each of us into the world and to care for us. She gave up herself so that we could be. I struggle to find balance and routine in my life with just two little ones. I don’t know how she did it and is still doing it.
I am not a morning person at all! I hate waking up. I love my bed! I remember in high school, my mom would come into my room each morning singing and she would tickle my feet to wake me up. She was always up long before the rest of the family getting housework done that we would shortly undo in our hurry to get wherever we needed to go.
She always came to my cross country and track races and participated in car pools and a million other things. She serves everyone with her many talents and love and she is very deserving of recognition and reward. I love my Mamma!
Don’t forget to nominate a mom you would like to see featured: Here